Bright children are fascinating. I have to be honest and say that there are children who have an average intelligenc and they are not really fascinating. But the really bright ones are. I wonder what kind of child Bill Gates was. My son is super bright. He is fascinating to most adults, most are captivated by his articulation, charm, curiosity and wit. Too bad other 5 yr olds are not as fascinated. One of the fascinating things about my son is watching him make up his own entertainment. In his own world, in his mind, where he lives a lot.
Lately, Finbar has been "stimming" a lot. Stimming, or self stimulatory behavior, is a lot like chewing on your pencil, picking your nose, shaking your knee when sitting....its usually an outlet for some underlying anxiety, deep thought or nervousness. Stimming is a key factor in autism. When Finbar stims, he stims with his entire body. He kind of grits his teeth, eyebrows pursed, making some humming noise, fingers flicking, arms stiffly shaking up and down, legs stiffly jumping up and down and around. It is very medicine doctor-like. When he is in this trance, he doesn't appear to hear you. Time and time again I ask him what he is thinking and feeling when he does this and he can't remember. Or he will consistently say that he does that when he is excited. Anyway, I find this way of tuning out the world fascinating to watch (and disturbing as well). It is so unusual - where does it come from?
Other ways Finbar checks out of this world are amusing. Here are some things I caught him doing recently:
- raising the pump lever of a bicycle pump to different heights and watching how fast or slow it went down when he released it.
- sailing a model wooden sailboat in a 6 ft long gutter fillled with water for 2 hours
- filling and emptying the laundry sink repeatedly for more than an hour to watch the "black hole" or whirlpool of water go down the drain
- filling the drain of same sink with first a popped balloon and its string, and then stick after stick after stick.
- turning on the outdoor faucet and watching the water flow out, all the while stimming while his shoes got soaked.
- walking around the house "flying" a jet plane for an hour without saying a word
I wonder, do other children engage in this sort of self entertainment? Dunno. My other son does not do these things. He plays trains. Other kids seem to build legos and play Leapfrog. But that is less interesting to watch...